Flipping Narratives and Other Random Thoughts

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Hey there,

How are you doing and how are you handling the post lockdown period with everything opening up and stuff?  Flipping narratives and other random thoughts is a short collection of thoughts, questions and expression of some incomplete opinion. Enjoy!

Flipping Narratives
    I stumbled on a writer on twitter telling regular stories with an amazing twist. So in the Nigerian society, there are standards women are held to when it comes to morality, marriage and parenting that their male counterparts are not subjected to. With the rise the social media, there has been an uproar with a lot of people either supporting or refusing to see a problem with such standards. So this writer switched the narratives so that in place of the woman in what is generally accepted with a man and I believe that has gone so far in showing how ridiculous those standards and hopefully help others see and understand how women feel about them.

Books and discussion
    My older brother made a comment after I tried encouraging him to read more books and learn more about stuff in general that all I read are stories. I am like I read stories all right but I read other things also and I don't think there is an age limit for when you stop reading novels and stories. Sometimes it is reading about things I already know but seeing it in a new light and from another human perspective is just enlightening. Do you think there an age limit for things we should read? Also, I love discussing things I read and come across in hopes that I bond with someone or at least get a glimpse of what is going on in their heads. So I am thinking about starting up a book club. 

Heartbreak and Love
    I am just going to throw this one out there not because I am trying to prove a point but I am hoping to get answers. So in my earlier posts, I had mentioned moving on after getting heartbroken. So now that the issues have been somewhat resolved and I can make peace with what happened and with myself, I have come to realize that my feelings for the person has not changed. In as much as I don't want to return to the way things used to be, I still have all those warm, fuzzy feelings. I am conflicted like have I moved on, have I not moved on, are the feelings supposed to go away, why does it feel like it has become stronger, is it toxic?

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COVID 19 Pandemic
    I need to know when does a pandemic end? Is it when we all get vaccinated or when the number of cases declines or when we decide that we are tired of keeping to the guidelines because I don't know and I am certain many other people don't. So if you have an idea when tell me.

Resumption
    There is news going around but I would say rumour that Universities are to resume next month. The thing is I am excited to finally leave my parents' house after like forever, I have mixed feelings about returning to school. I am getting stressed thinking about, not to mention when the actual stress arrives and the university is downright frustrating.  Yes, examinations are awaiting our arrival.

Online stores and WhatsApp Status
    I must say I am proud of my friends that opened stores and started a business during this pandemic. I am a bit worried about those that started a craft and straight on monetize it because I doesn't feel right to make money off things that help you relax but again it is my opinion. The thing I am wary of is the amount of people trying to sell everything off their WhatsApp status. I think it is easier creating a sort of website for your store and just pepper us a little with what you are selling or use Instagram, not WhatsApp and putting up the pictures every single day. And to the Crypto people, shey it no dey tire you?

Paired error
    Have you ever wondered about two different options that are presented to you that are opposite of each other and are not completely right? Like the two things are at the extreme end of a spectrum, in itself, each of the options has a good quality and also a bad quality that might be hard to see unless you dig deeper. My question is this, why is that when we face such things, we choose to go for what we believe is the lesser evil or we decide to try to find a midpoint. What if the decision we make ends up harming people, why do we decide then to be biased about who we end up hurting. Is it possible to walk away from the trap of paired errors and actually learn, or seek to find the truth something that ensures that nobody is hurt or that both everybody is at peace? How many times do we fall into the trap that there is never a third option and that we must always choose a side? 

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So what do you think?
Leave a comment or better still you can reach me at theestherian@gmail.com.

Have a blessed week.
The Estherian





Comments

  1. KamiAugust 17, 2020 at 9:48 AM

    So many thoughts, I don't know which one to answer. I think a pandemic ends when they've found a cure and a vaccine. That way, the sick ones get healed and the ordinary people get protected.
    I also don't feel it's wise making money off a craft one is exploring. Get comfortable with what you're doing first and work on improving before rushing to sell.
    Social media is becoming the fastest way to market your products. I really don't blame them for posting all the time. However, my suggestion is, if you're selling anything via your status please put the price there. Once I see send a dm, I'll just scroll past that status update.
    For books, no knowledge is a waste. It's good to read wide and I don't think there should be an age limit to reading.
    I left this one for the last on purpose. It's normal to have feelings for someone after a breakup. The feelings may appear to be stronger but they're not. If they were so strong, wouldn't you get back to the person? What you feel is normal. I think you just miss the person. Just remember the reason why you left that relationship. Give yourself time, you'll get over it.
    Nice work here by the way 👏🏽

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    1. The EstherianAugust 17, 2020 at 12:01 PM

      Kami, thank you for this.
      And I would go by what you have said and give myself time. But then again what if I went back. You can kindly ignore me being silly.
      Thank you again.

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  2. MunaAugust 17, 2020 at 11:09 AM

    Concerning women, I feel the society still has a long way to go we really have to unlearn so many things, I made a post on WhatsApp one time and some of the comments I got were really annoying, someone even went as far as saying I should not be posting these kind of things cos I don't know the relationships i will loose because of that post and I was like not everybody viewing my status thinks like you, while some use the bible to subdue women.
    I'm so interested in the book club, cos every knowledge is vital and like you said we will be able to connect with people if we have a glimpse of their thoughts.
    I don't really know what to write about the heartbreak but I I know it's really hard to unlove someone, but with hopes and reasons you left the relationship at first, you will be okay...
    I'll also be reading comments to know when a pandemic actually ends and if you have other replies on your gmail, I'd want to know.
    About resumption, school is a no for me till next year, I've already planned the rest of the year without school but let's see how it goes.

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  3. The EstherianAugust 17, 2020 at 12:03 PM

    Muna, I agree with you about the unlearning, I have to say for people using the bible, maybe it is because the women have not gone back to study and understand what is there or maybe I am wrong. I will share the replies I get in my mail later.
    Thank you.

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